Category: Nanny Tips

Nanny vs. Family….it doesn’t have to be a struggle


Oftentimes, parents and Nanny aren’t on the same page when it comes to the many issues associated with raising a child—not unlike how a mother and father may have differing opinions. It can often feel uncomfortable for a parent to tell the caretaker who looks after his or her child what to do—acting as her boss, when she really feels more like a member of the family. Here are four common miscommunications between parent and nanny, and how to resolve them:

1. The nanny is unclear of what her duties entail.
The best way to solve this issue is with a written Employer/Employee Contract. Neverland Nannies & Domestics can provide a template for a family and nanny that they can use to clearly outline duties and expectations. Although this may seem formal to some, the nanny/family dynamic is still an employer/employee relationship and should be treated as such. A contract is helpful because either party can refer back to it, and the nanny will feel comfortable knowing that her duties have been clearly outlined from the start. If the family would like to add chores to her list of duties, negotiations for additional pay can be discussed and the contract revised. It should be looked at as a living document that can and most likely will be altered as the nanny and family grow together in their relationship. Additionally, if possible, a parent should consider taking a couple of days off from work to train the nanny when she is first hired.

2. Miscommunication: small issues become big problems because they are not addressed immediately.
There are many variables that affect a family’s day-to-day life with their nanny. It can take a nanny several months to understand the ebbs and flows of the household and the specific characteristics of each family member, which can make these challenging times. Furthermore, it can feel uncomfortable for a parent to address an issue with someone who is so closely connected with his or her family. This is why it is important, right off the bat, to establish a weekly, or bimonthly meeting where the parents and nanny can address any issues he or she is having. These should just be casual conversations—just a chance to exchange thoughts and recommendations. This will allow everyone to “check-in” on a consistent basis and nobody will have to stress about the best time to bring up a sensitive issue. Nobody is a mind reader, so with this consistent communication, you are more likely to avoid resentment.

3. On-time arrivals
This section applies to both nanny and parent—and hey, we live in Southern California where traffic is as common as blue skies and 80-degree weather in February. So, to expect that a nanny will arrive exactly at 7:30am— every. single. day, will only lead to disappointment. However, that doesn’t mean that a nanny shouldn’t be held to the same standards as any other employee in the workforce. The nanny has a responsibility to be at her place of work at the expected time every day, even though it’s just at your home.
This standard also applies to the parent; coming home from work, a little later and later every evening can often lead to feelings of resentment by the nanny because she can feel as though you don’t value her time or she may begin to feel taken advantage of. Again, using the tips from #1 and creating a clear contract with expectations of start and end times will help in this situation, and so will #2. On the rare occasion a parent is going to be late coming home, it should be clearly communicated as early in the day as possible with the nanny. If it becomes the norm, the contract should be adjusted and the nanny should be fairly compensated for her extra time.

4. Payroll issues
This is a big one and is one of the most common questions we get from both parents and nannies at Neverland Nannies. Technically, a family cannot 1099 a full-time nanny who works in his or her home; the full-time nanny must be provided a W-2. These are employees who have the same rights to Social Security, Medicare and often need proof of employment in order to rent apartments, buy cars, and to establish credit. Many nannies feel uncomfortable asking their employer to put them on payroll, but it is an extremely important process and is the only legal way to compensate a full-time employee. At Neverland Nannies we always refer our clients to Breedlove and Associates for advice as well as to establish payroll with their domestic employees. Also, parents should always consult their CPAs regarding compensation for their nanny.

Great News for California ~The Domestic Worker’s Bill of Rights is here!

California is officially one of 4 States to successfully pass the Domestic Worker’s Bill of Rights in the United States. With other largely populated states such as New York, Hawaii and now Massachusetts supporting the Domestic Worker’s Bill, perhaps now the almost 2 million nanny and domestic worker’s who make up the domestic industry will gain clarity on their rights and responsibilities as Household Employees. To us, this means that our Los Angeles based Nanny Agency, will also be able to help educate Household Employer’s as to what is and isn’t acceptable in the household workforce. While it may be somewhat of a transition for those families who are already employing nannies and other domestic worker’s, we must start somewhere, in order to create a more viable domestic workplace environment.

We truly owe a very special thanks to Executive Director, Ai-jen Poo, who has worked tirelessly with the National Domestic Worker’s Alliance, to make this Domestic Worker’s dream into reality. Way to go Ai-jen! You too California!

How Domestic Workers’ Rights Affect Us All

As a growing industry, domestic work has become exceedingly important as the “traditional family” structure is replaced by a more unconventional one. What once was the typical family setting—mother stays home with the children and father goes to work, has now been replaced with single parents and situations where both parents go to work everyday.

This article by @SethFW on highlights the work that Ai-jen Poo, domestic worker advocate and winner of The Macarthur Foundation’s “Genius” Award has done for this cause. Perhaps now, because of Ai-jen Poo’s work, the #nanny and #domestic industry will gain some clarity as to Domestic Worker’s Rights.

If you employ a domestic worker or ARE a domestic worker, this is a must-read: “Macarthur ‘Genius’ Ai-jen Poo: Organizing America’s Domestic Workers.

For more information on domestic workers’ rights in California and nationally, visit

Ai-jen Poo

Photo courtesy of Time Magazine


How to pay your Baby Nurse


Baby Nurse: Household Employee or Independent Contractor?

Baby Nurse: Household Employee or Independent Contractor?

Once we’ve found the perfect Newborn Care Specialist (also known as Baby Nurse or Newborn Specialist) for our client’s newborn, the next question is often- “How do I pay our Newborn Care Specialist?” Although employee pay and the negotiations of the matter are between the household Employer and Employee (not Neverland Nannies), we are often asked for our guidance on this issue.  It can be difficult to figure out whether or not the Newborn Care Specialist should be put on a payroll and given a W-2 or paid as an Independent Contractor.  Many families don’t want to go through the hassle of obtaining a Federal Tax I.D. number and then going through the issues of Federal Withholdings, etc.   To clear all this up once and for all we spoke with a tax expert, Tom Breedlove of Breedlove and Associates, ( whom we always direct our clients to for tax and payroll-related issues, and this is what he had to say:

“We believe that a family could successfully argue that a Baby Nurse should be classified as an independent contractor rather than as an employee.  Our logic is that Baby Nurses:

  • Have a specialized expertise and do not take direction from the family on how to perform their duty;
  • Bring their own tools and equipment;
  • Offer their services to the general public;
  • Work for a finite period of time (i.e. 2-12 weeks).”

As long as all four of these conditions are met and the Baby Nurse pays her portion of the payroll taxes, Breedlove believes the IRS won’t pursue any action against the employer.  If, however, the Newborn Care Specialist does not pay her share of Social Security and Medicare to the IRS, they may come to the family (employer) first.  It will be up to the family to make the argument stated above.  According to Breedlove:

This is a complex and, frankly, outdated part of the tax code.  The statutes were created in the 1930’s, long before anyone had ever heard of a Baby Nurse and there has not been any case law to establish precedent.”

Another factor to consider is that most of the time, a Newborn Care Specialist will work more than 40-hours per week, so if the family is treating the Newborn Care Specialist as an independent contractor, overtime will not be a factor and the Newborn Care Specialist will just bill the employer for the number of hours of work.

Ultimately, the employer should always consult his/her own tax preparer or attorney to be sure that all tax codes are being followed.  Neverland Nannies will always be here to guide you through the process of finding and hiring a Newborn Care Specialist; we make it a pleasant and effortless process!


A day with Nanny: Lemonade Stand!

This one’s for the nannies!  Do you ever find yourself running out of fun and creative ideas for you and your charges to do from time to time? It’s not always easy trying to keep the kids entertained all day long.  Well have no fear!  In light of wanting to keep our kids loving our nannies, we’ve decided to come up with some weekly tips on fun and exciting things to do with Nanny and what better way to start then by suggesting A Lemonade Stand!

lemonade stand

Start by making a table and decorative sign for your stand. Not only will your nicely decorated stand attract the local neighborhood kids but it will also take up a good portion of your day by having the kids make their signs.  You’ll also need the following for your Lemonade Stand:

1.   Table
2.   A large, bright sign to attract customers
3.   2-3 lemonade pitchers
4.   lots of ice (an ice cooler is ideal)
5.   plastic cups (on the smaller side, so you’re not pouring too much or you’ll run out of lemonade quickly!
6.   Change. Lots of $1.00 bills and quarters will likely be needed
7.   Perhaps some freshly baked cookies to go with the lemonade
8.   Finally, the magic ingredient: Lemonade! (Lemons+Purified Water+Sugar)

It’s a great idea to have 2-3 pitchers of lemonade already prepared, in case you have a lot of kids stop by at once (you never know)! You can also spice up your lemonade by adding lemon/lime slices or perhaps even some fresh berries. You’ll definitely want to test your lemonade out first to make sure it’s a little sweet and not too sour. Most importantly, keep it fun and also remember these important tips:

pretzels    cookies    krispie treats

  • NEVER EVER leave the kids at the lemonade stand unattended, even if you need to run inside to get change.  The last thing you need to worry about is someone stealing lemonade.
  • Be sure to get parents consent prior telling the kids of your idea and having the lemonade stand.
  • Don’t over charge for the lemonade. It’s supposed to be a fun, enjoyable experience for the kids and you want to attract people, which is half the fun! .10-.50 cents is reasonable.
  • If you plan your lemonade stand during the weekend, you’ll likely attract some additional children. You can even plan for your Lemonade Sale a day or two in advance by working on your banner/sign
  • Explain to your charges that not everyone will necessarily buy their lemonade and there may only be a few people, so they don’t get too disappointed if only a couple of people show up.
  • Consider baking something as well (brownies, cookies, cupcakes, rice krispy treats, etc.), which may make it more tempting for people to stop by and make a purchase. Remember, it may be hot outside, so pick your baked items, carefully.

Most importantly, remember to have fun and take lots of pictures for mom and dad!!

Top 10 Activities for Nannies

Hello Nannies!

Have you ever drawn a blank when planning the activities for the day? It can happen to anyone; sometimes you just run out of ideas!

Rest assured, we’ve pulled up a “Top 10” list of possible activities that can easily be done with children, that also have some additional benefits that mom and dad are sure to love. Here they are, in no particular order:

· Museums: Whether it’s traditional art or modern art, museums are filled with exciting sights for any child, in addition to being very educational. Many museums offer a day of free admission, so be sure to look out for that check out your local magazines and newspapers for coupons and promotions.


· Creative/Imaginary play: is believed by many researchers and theorists that games involving child-friendly imaginative play (make believe story-telling, dress-up, cashier/supermarket, etc.) is vital to a child’s social and cognitive development.

· Board/card Games: Age appropriate games (such as go fish, memory, Tic Tac Toe, Candyland, and Guess Who to name a few) are an excellent way to work on a child’s cognitive and fine motor skills…not to mention help pass the time away!

· Library or Bookstore: A great and inexpensive way to entertain children is to bring them to the Library and read aloud to them! Many experts believe that reading aloud to children starting at a young age has a multitude of benefits such as improved literacy, language development, enhanced vocabulary, brain development, and much more.


· The Great Outdoors!: Nature walks to collect rocks, leaves, or twigs to make mom/dad a special gift, hunting for seashells and sandcrabs or building sandcastles at the beach…bike/wagon rides will all provide your charge with a daily dose of fresh air and Vitamin D! Just don’t forget to use sunscreen.

· Local Attractions & Events: Keep an eye out for any local events or attractions that would make a suitable outing with the children (carnivals, children’s concerts and plays, local circus, etc.). Be sure to keep an eye out on local magazines, newspapers, and websites such as laweekly, jenslist, ocfamily to keep updated on current events.

· Cooking: There are tons of tasty, HEALTHY and simple recipes that can be done with children. Always be sure to supervise them in the kitchen and be aware of any food allergies that may exist. One excellent snack idea we found from one of our new favorite sites Super Healthy Kids: Apple wedges – great for a snack or dessert!



· Arts and Crafts: Painting, sculpture making, rock painting, homemade play doh or slime—the ideas here are endless. If you feel stumped, Craft stores such as Michaels are filled with great ideas, so something will certainly jump out at you.

· Sports: Sports are a great way for introducing a healthy, active lifestyle to children, but be sure to watch their safety. not to mention are an excellent way to burn off a ton of energy (and it’s most likely his/her/their parents will thank you for this!)

· Farmers’ Markets: a fantastic opportunity for children to feel more connected, and interested in the food they’re eating. A lot of the vendors are very passionate about what they do, and are more than happy to answer any questions. You might get some free samples too but make sure you are completely aware of any food allergies your charge may have before sampling.

Of course, this is just a short list, but hopefully offers some inspiration. Nannies, what are your favorite activities please feel free to share other ideas you’ve come up with!

Helpful Resources for More Ideas:

Jens List

Michaels Arts & Crafts

OC Family 

LA Weekly


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